Back-to-School Struggles: Understanding and Supporting Your Child
Back-to-school season can be a time of excitement and nerves all at once. While some kids look forward to seeing friends and meeting new teachers, others feel anxious, overwhelmed, or resistant to the change. As a parent, it can be tough to know how to help your child through this adjustment.
The truth is, many children and teens experience challenges when starting a new school year. With patience, understanding, and a few practical strategies, you can make the transition smoother for your family.
Common Challenges Kids Face
Younger children may feel worried about separating from parents at drop-off.
Academic pressures—like new subjects, homework, or expectations—can create stress.
Social concerns such as making friends, fitting in, or handling peer conflicts can be difficult.
Shifting from a relaxed summer routine to early mornings and busy days often leads to fatigue or irritability.
Big emotions can show up in different ways—meltdowns, withdrawal, or acting out.
Knowing what your child might be experiencing helps you respond with empathy instead of frustration.
Ways to Make the Transition Easier
Establish routines. A predictable morning, after-school, and bedtime routine helps kids feel secure and know what to expect.
Talk about feelings. Encourage your child to share what’s on their mind. Let them know their worries are valid and that it’s normal to feel nervous.
Take small steps. Practice short goodbyes, walk through what the school day will look like, or role-play how to meet a new classmate.
Offer coping tools. Younger kids may benefit from deep breathing or a calm-down space at home. Teens may find journaling, listening to music, or using a mindfulness app helpful.
Stay connected with school. A quick check-in with a teacher or school counselor can give your child added support during the day.
Leave space for downtime. Make sure your child has time to relax and play. Balance between school demands and rest helps kids manage stress.
Be a calm role model. Kids notice how you handle stress. Showing confidence and flexibility teaches them that challenges can be worked through.
Knowing When to Get Extra Help
Some nerves are expected, but if worries last beyond the first few weeks or begin to affect sleep, appetite, or daily functioning, it may be time to reach out for extra support. A child psychologist can provide strategies tailored to your child’s needs.
Final Thoughts
Back-to-school struggles are common, and you’re not alone in facing them. With steady support, encouragement, and a few simple strategies, children and teens can build resilience and start the year with confidence.
If your child is having ongoing anxiety, school refusal, or emotional challenges, professional help can make a big difference.
At Shea Psychological Services in Boca Raton, I work with children, teens, and families to make school transitions less stressful and more successful.
📞 Ready to support your child’s confidence this school year? Schedule a free 15-minute consultation today.